Sometimes, you may have a bad day. Maybe you woke up late, or you didn’t do as well as you would have liked on an assignment. When we don’t feel our best, we may not act our best. Next thing you know, you’re lashing out at a roommate over a small thing. Things can happen, and you may say things you don’t mean. But now things are awkward between you two. What can you do?
- Let your roommate know that you’re open to having a conversation with them. They may be feeling similarly to you, and knowing that the door is always open makes difficult conversations easier.
- Plan ahead. You can also reach out them and let them know that you want to talk. No one wants to be surprised by a serious talk. Plan a time and a place where you are both comfortable with talking.
- Use “I” statements. It’s important to focus on your feelings and your behaviours, rather than assuming others’ feelings.
- Work towards a compromise. Taking the first steps is hard, however, when we are able to brainstorm the needs and wants for both roommates, it contributes to an enjoyable living experience.
These steps may help you get a conversation going, and we know that these conversations can be difficult. Being receptive to others’ experiences and perspectives can help you become a more empathetic person. However, these can be great opportunities to learn more about each other and strengthen your relationship. If you live on campus, connect with a don, talk it over with them to see what else you can do to foster a good roommate living environment. For more information, click here.